Tuesday 22 March 2011

How to Get Relatives to Contribute to Your Family History

Here are a few of the many reasons to recruit relatives - and often family friends - to help you with your family history:
- Their contributions will make your family history much richer and more interesting to readers
- The individual personalities of your ancestors will come through in the stories and remembrances of contributors
- Family members have treasures, photos of deceased family members and old documents, and especially photos of family heirlooms and hand-me-downs - some you may not even know exist
- Contributors will add comments to what you produce - again adding interest and richness to your family history
- When a person contributes, it will encourage others to contribute
- They will catch mistakes!
Of course, some relatives will be more interested and helpful than others - and some simply may be too busy. Therefore, don't be discouraged if at first, you do not get help from some people. But keep in contact with them and keep them informed because they may become interested at a later time.
It is likely that older relatives may be forthcoming - treat them well!
A good way to get a relative involved is to ask them about their memories of an individual -- biographical material should be a central component to any family history. Experience shows that biographical material is usually the most viewed material in a family history. Some people are likely to tell you memories faster than you can record them! Encourage them to write memories in their own words; some will, some won't, so be flexible - you may be able to encourage them if you say you will edit anything they write.
Example: I asked my sister to tell the story about when our mother attempted to teach her how to kill a chicken on the farm (preparatory to fried or roast chicken eating) - an excerpt:
"When I was thirteen or fourteen, Mom decided that I should learn how to kill chickens (a necessity of life according to her or maybe a passage into womanhood)... She got the chicken out of the coop, laid it on its side, put her right foot of the feet of the chicken, stretched out the neck, and in a very matter of fact way cut off its head. The body of the chicken would flop all over the place."
Now that adds interesting color to a family history!
When a person gives you a contribution, not only should say, "Thanks", but you should also tell all possible contributors about it - knowing about specific contributions will encourage more contributions.
Give relatives a document outlining possible contributions. This serves a double purpose because it will also be a checklist for material that you will include in your family history. Here is a starter list:
- Remembrances and "stories" about an ancestor - idiosyncrasies, uniqueness
- Old photos - ancestors, family reunions, pets, homes, etc.
- Digital photos of hand-me-downs, artifacts, documents, etc.
- Private correspondence, e.g., old letters for a digital scan image
- Wedding licenses and old legal documents
- Military documents and photos
- Obituaries, newspaper articles, other published material
- Memories of what was different "back then"
My name is Dale Garden and I help people learn to write their own online family histories. I provide learning resources for people to learn to do family trees, to edit and manage photos and to learn blogging as the best way to write and publish online family histories. And when justified, I offer personal one-on-one assistance.
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